Dear Girl

Depression is never a solution for solving any problem.   This a lot of people know but find themselves still in the shell of depression. It is obvious they are yet to control how situations get to them.  Now, we have to understand that as long as we are still alive, there must be challenges faced on a daily basis. A man without challenges or problems cannot grow. Everyone faces challenges!  There is a reason why we face challenges but it was never meant to weigh us down and take us to the point of depression which can also lead to committing suicide.   This has been faced by a lot of persons. The worst is that, they refuse to talk to anyone about it.  Firstly, the one person that can heal every broken heart, is the Lord Almighty. Go to Him. God expects man to be totally dependent on Him. He uses situations to draw us closer to Him because we should know that He has the answer to whatsoever it might be that troubles us. I always emphasize that...

      I don't think we know how powerful understanding is and the extent of what it does. Many relationships have ended because of lack of understanding.   It takes grace, I must confess to try and understand any situation. However, I also emphasize on patience, if you lack patience you will fail to understand.  Many of us want to react whenever some thing pisses us off. We are quick to make a decision without thinking from the other person's view. Yes, relationship is hardwork because you have to take lots of excuse, pain. A lot of people react out of what they heard or even saw. Nobody likes complain, and when it comes to a relationship especially when there are no knots tied yet, you do not feel obliged to report to anybody.  The problem is not for one person to solve, the two people involved have to work together to bring a good result.     Even the Bible says that two cannot walk together unless they agree. You can...

    A lot of times, we want to do things on our own, by ourselves, with our own power and understanding. We think we can do some things by ourselves without involving GOD.  GOD has always been in the business of showing who He is, His power, He did not fail to let pharoah know who the boss was, neither did He fail to let Ahab know who was in charge.  GOD purposely allows some things happen in our lives just to prove and show His power, you know He deserves accolades. He wants to prove to you that what has been declared impossible is over again possible (with Him).     It is spiritually wrong for you to look down on GOD and His ability to deliver.  Just because most people feel everything is under control they end up failing and not achieving anything.  We have failed to understand that without GOD man is a complete dust, if GOD decides to blink His eyes this moment, the whole world will be under darkness, and death.   ...

A man who has nothing to offer is a man who is not needed!  - Wulika   There should always be something that distinguishes you out from any other person, something that can not be found in the other person. Value is priceless. A man with value is respected and desired. And of course you can not give me what you do not have.  There are so many people who have nothing to give because they have nothing inside of them. And this is not because they do not really have something inside but it is because they have not worked on what they have to refine it and make it attractive. It is wrong to be involved in a relationship of no gain. I am not talking of the monetary gain, I am talking about wisdom, a gain that is far more needed, more appreciated. Although a lot of people will still go for money because they feel it's instant but before the wealth of wisdom comes, could take time. No matter the time it comes, when it comes it comes with a bang. A man that can...

God is a wonderful Man. So kind and gracious, merciful even unto the worst sinner. There is no need to condemn yourself when GOD has not.  In Matthew Jesus asked the adulterous woman, "where are your accusers?" and she replied that they had all gone. Jesus told her, since they did not condemn her, He would not condemn her.    That is mercy, mercy is what we as man do not deserve but we get from the loving Father.  Like I say, GOD is not a wicked Man. He only waits for every one to come to Him.  Jesus said when we sin we have an advocate with the Father who pleads our case before GOD, standing as an intercessor on our behalf.  Jesus is the advocate. Jesus is the one that can plead your case to GOD. The devil always tries to make us feel guilty with the wrongs we made, yes his accusations are true but Jesus said I will stand as an advocate on your behalf. The greatest love that was tested and approved is the love GOD had and has for humanit...