Stop putting unnecessary pressure on your relationship!

I am sure most of you will be able to relate to what you are about to read. I would like us to be honest with ourselves. Most of us do these things and hurt our partner and our relationship.

I am sometimes left to wonder if these people instigating this pressure are not concerned about the state of their relationship/marriage. Because why would you be bringing in unnecessary drama into your relationship, especially when you are very aware that this could be sickening to your relationship?

Please let us pay close attention to this topic as we progress.

What do I mean by putting unnecessary pressure on your relationship?

 

Now, I am going to make you understand what I mean when I talk about putting pressure on your relationship.

 

There are some things that ought to be overlooked in a relationship, but as usual, you demand answers, you over think and over act on things (whether little or not) your partner does.

…which could absolutely be wrong!

When you are finally able to get across to them, that becomes the first thing you talk about, this might not mean anything at first but could mean a lot if it becomes incessant.

You give yourself unnecessary headache when you try to control every thing happening in your relationship. 

It can be very overwhelming if it keeps happening, and it could also lead to a break up because the truth is nobody likes pressure especially if it is not needed and can be avoided.

So we are both going to be learning how destructive this attitude is and how we can work on ourselves to avoid such attitude to lead into a breakup and end up losing our relationship.

TRUST

Let us talk about trust or better still the lack of it. You can not keep having doubts about my intentions each time and put it out on every little thing I do.

Putting pressure on your partner means you choking them, leaving them tired of you and the relationship.

I usually say this; there is only so much any human can take, once they get to the point at which they can no longer take in what you throw at them, they immediately start to withdraw.

And I mean if  you have worked so hard to protect this relationship and you end up losing it, what was your gain after all?

So, maybe we should learn trust

UNDERSTANDING

At the end of the day, relationships working out depends on the same things we already know. Your relationship could take a break from the drama if only you will just understand and not stress certain issues.

It is not everything you should worry about or complain about, demanding answers to your wandering questions, we don't always get answers; know this and know peace!

WAY OUT!

Work on yourself, do not think because you are currently not in a relationship you are ready for a new one.

No! please work on your shit before starting a new relationship, do not bring the fact that you can not deal with some things into your relationship.

People who have undealt issues have demands, high demands in their relationship and it is not all the time your partner can fulfill all, soon they will wear out and you  end up losing.

There are still lots of things to talk about, this is just to introduce you to this topic, because I recently started to observe relationships around me and what the effect of whatever issues there were, had on their partner.

So while we wait for the conclusion of this discussion, practice this in your relationship/marriage and see what difference you create.