Being The PEACE he needs

                            

   One thing I have noticed in men is that there is a cry in their heart that most women do not hear. They do not talk about it but they explain it in their attitude towards you, but unfortunately still some women do not see it.

 Women easily and readily express their discomfort by talking but men don't, instead they flee. 

When they see that the one place where they ought to find peace is the same place there is war, they would definitely run far away from there.

The intention of every woman should be to be a man's peace, a man's safe haven.  Let him feel safe with you, let him know that he is safe with you.

And what we women do not know is that this attitude will bring your man closer to you, oh yes. He will always want to come to the place of Peace because the real world be scary for him with a lot of challenges, temptations and even competitions.

The last thing he needs is to come home and still be tempted to either leave the house for you or hit you (this is actually one of the reasons of domestic violence, amongst many others).

Being a man's peace is a continuous constant practice. I know what you are thinking right now, so I get to ensure that he has peace and my own feelings are neglected? Noo that should not be a concern, trust me; In the end you will get what you want and deserve.

There was a day my boyfriend missed my calls and he didn't return them I felt angry but I told myself I was going to pass the message across to him in a peaceful way I did and he smiled and said he was sorry; this was exactly what I said to him. 

"Babe, when you miss anybody's call you should try to return the calls it only means you appreciate the effort they took in calling you"

I smiled when he smiled, I was like go girl; I didn't come out all shouty and "blamey" and he realized he was wrong and he apologized he smiled because he liked the way I passed the message to him without correcting him but teaching him, there's a difference between those two.

I have also heard men tell me I am not ready for this drama, yes because they have a lot going on and unlike women who like to talk men don't talk too often instead they strategize and they need a woman who can help them make that strategizing go well.

Here are five things that happens when you are your man's Peace

1. He loves you more
   It is difficult to see women who understand the power of silence and overlooking, there are lots of beautiful women with good body shape but he can leave those ones for the one person that gives him peace of mind. And love the one who gives him peace of mind instead of nag at him

2.  He opens up to you
   As much as they do not like talking, if you make a man understand that he is safe with you he can tell you anything and at anytime especially at his own time

3.  You get closer to him
    Even though some few drinks and his friends are there to cheer him up he will always want to be around you

4.  You become more important to him
   The fact that you listen to him instead of judge and criticize him is going to make him hold you dear in his heart

5.  You become his best friend
  There is nothing as being your man's best friend and go to

Most women might want to argue this, but trust me being patient with a man instead of nagging will only make him yours.