Inter-tribal Challenge

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  Our different cultures and tribes have made it difficult for most people to marry people of their choice!    


It is honestly painful and sad that our different tribes play a major role in our love affair.

 Many relationships are breaking everyday because of tribe differences.

 And because of this many people have married partners whom their hearts do not desire just because they want to please their parents.

 Sometime ago I was speaking with a friend and I asked him his thoughts about inter-tribal marriage. 

 And he opened up to me to say he had similar challenge when he brought his wife home.

 His mother and sisters were against his wife to be and it was really a challenge.

 What he did?

 He called his mother and spoke to her from his heart, making her understand that he has found love with the lady he brought home.

 He pacified his mother and made her see the good in his wife to be and she did.

 Firstly we need to erase this tribe mentality and look deeper into a person.

 Although I am also guilty of judging from a tribe and that is because of the kind of experience I have had with that tribe.

To be honest there are some traits familiar with some tribes and we cannot shy away from that.

 But people are different.

 Mostly this discrimination comes from women; mothers and sisters. 

 I conducted a research where I asked people who partners find the most challenge from when it comes to inter-tribal marriage.

 Majority of persons said it's the mothers and sisters especially the mothers. 

 These mothers forgetting they were once young and at some point also at the mercy of their parents and partner's parent's decision.

 It is important to have the blessing of your partner's family so you can enjoy your marriage, don't get me wrong

 And that is why it is also important you talk to them from your heart.

 My opinion on this is if the person you are interested in is a good person and comes from a good family then where they come from doesn't matter.

 Now the men have an important role to play, they need to know how to convince their parents especially their mothers; just like our friend in my example.

 So you can marry the love of your life and still be at peace with your family and every one is happy.

So go for who makes you happy, who you have found love with and let love lead.

Comments

  1. eltonesJanuary 22, 2021 at 8:27 AM

    The tribalism in our dear country reeks deep and we shouldn't even lie to ourselves about that, it's a sad reality we're in and at some point I thought it was peculiar to one tribe but unfortunately it's general disease. But when it comes to love and relationships with other people I'll always advise and reteirate that you be with someone you deeply love and care for regardless of where there are from and I relate with people based off their personal trait not where there are from and the parents can get mad about it and if them vex finish they will come around, like what's such thing as parent blessings especially when they're opposing you marrying someone you love because of where they are from, like they'll need my blessings if it ever comes to that and that's tribalism 101 and it's bad
    So please marry and relate with who you love kapish my
    T

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