Dear Girl

Do you know how you know when you've found the one?                        Did you come here to find answers? I did as well. Forget that the blog is in my name, it is our blog. We share our thoughts on interesting topics, which are at the same time really relevant to us. I am just here wondering, what does "the one" really mean? because I am no longer certain. I mean, I go on Instagram to unwind and I go to explore and see really cute couple pictures. I click on the pictures because, you know, it is my area of interest and the captions usually go like "I married my best friend." "I find peace here." "This is home"... These are actually the men talking. Ladies, the men talking! Or is it just an exaggeration? ...and I just pause back and ask what these men really mean when they say "she is my peace" and blah Well, do you know? Let me share with you my own thoughts, and you can share yours with me in the comment section. F...

You wanna know why you feel insecure and what you should do.                Read on!  Firstly, you should know everyone of us have a level of insecurity in us.    Like I said, "a level", because there are some who have insecurity issues that affect their relationship badly.    In cases like this, I advise you do not start or enter a relationship unless you are willing and ready not to hurt your partner. Most people do not understand the hurt and cut of insecurity effect in a relationship. It is toxic!    Now, it is not your fault that you feel insecure     No one was born insecure, as children we were born fearless but as we grew we had encounters.     Encounters with situations that threatened our strength of faith and confidence.    Alot of people, both Male and female likewise have had bad experiences in their past relationships.    They went through emotional tortu...

I am sure most of you will be able to relate to what you are about to read. I would like us to be honest with ourselves. Most of us do these things and hurt our partner and our relationship. I am sometimes left to wonder if these people instigating this pressure are not concerned about the state of their relationship/marriage. Because why would you be bringing in unnecessary drama into your relationship, especially when you are very aware that this could be sickening to your relationship? Please let us pay close attention to this topic as we progress. What do I mean by putting unnecessary pressure on your relationship?   Now, I am going to make you understand what I mean when I talk about putting pressure on your relationship.   There are some things that ought to be overlooked in a relationship, but as usual, you demand answers, you over think and over act on things (whether little or not) your partner does. …which could absolutely be wrong! When you are finally able to g...

        Our different cultures and tribes have made it difficult for most people to marry people of their choice!     It is honestly painful and sad that our different tribes play a major role in our love affair. Many relationships are breaking everyday because of tribe differences. And because of this many people have married partners whom their hearts do not desire just because they want to please their parents. Sometime ago I was speaking with a friend and I asked him his thoughts about inter-tribal marriage.  And he opened up to me to say he had similar challenge when he brought his wife home. His mother and sisters were against his wife to be and it was really a challenge. What he did? He called his mother and spoke to her from his heart, making her understand that he has found love with the lady he brought home. He pacified his mother and made her see the good in his wife to be and she did. Firstly we need to erase this t...

 Does Age really play an important  role in relationships/marriage?            Yes it does, oh yes it does. Some people have left their relationships/marriages because of this age thing.                              Some people actually debate about their age to their significant other, talking about how much older they are and trying to draw a line so that their S.O do not cross their boundaries. Some people give a damn while others do not really care. I personally love a man who is older than me so I can give him more respect. Although this does not mean that I can't respect a man who is not older. But I love an older man, it gives him the chance to usurp more authority on me, I love men that can be MEN. I honestly cannot date or marry a man that is younger than me, I know you will say if there is love it would not matter. Yes...