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I found  a new love. A different kind of love. A love that makes me giggle hard, a love that brings out the youth in me. And it feels so unreal, it feels too perfect.   I definitely know these are butterflies but I sincerely love them, I doubt I will leave this honey moon phase soon as my mind thinks. I love this euphoria, I want to keep this love. This one feels special. It feels divine. I am ready to be blown away by every stage of the love. It screams protected, loved, babied, pampered all the good stuff.  Affirmations, attention, understanding, love, every single thing! I found anew love, I was not ready for it, I thought I would hurt him because I was not ready, it was just my mind trying to rob me of this beautiful thing that has happened to me. I glow differently, I am not worried, I am rest assured.  I feel like a wife, I feel important like I mean something to someone who isn't my family. I want this forever, I want this to last but I also know this are feel...

  Every woman deserves a soft love. Every woman deserves a love that makes her forget her past; the hurts and the pains. A love that makes her safe, a love that makes her confident, a love that makes her walk with her head held up high. Why should she be denied of this? why should she get less?  Every woman deserves the kind of love that makes her better, the kind of love that makes her count her blessings and count her man twice. Every woman deserves the love that reminds her how beautiful she is, the kind of love that makes her miss her man by her side.  Water the plant, so you can enjoy its benefits, for the land is only greener where you water it.  This post is to let every woman know that they deserve the love that is not toxic, the love that appreciates their effort.  It is high time that every woman learns not to settle for less, not to settle for the love that does not cause them to smile, that does not make them happy. No matter your age, you deserve tr...

How to love a broken man   Introduction There's no sugarcoating it: loving a broken man is hard. It takes patience, understanding, and a whole lot of love. But if you're up for the challenge, it can be the most rewarding thing you'll ever do. So, what should you expect when loving a broken man? Let's take a look. Loving a Broken Man Takes Time, Effort, and Patience It's not easy loving a broken man. In fact, it can be downright exhausting. You have to be prepared to put in a lot of time, effort, and patience if you want the relationship to work. Broken men are used to being let down, so you'll have to make a concerted effort to show him that you're different. Be there for him when he needs you and don't give up on him easily. He'll appreciate it more than you can imagine. A Broken Man Is Someone Who Has Been Hurt in the Past I've been there. I know what it's like to love someone who's been hurt in the past. It's not easy, because a br...

  I loved the wrong man I believed I understood what love was. I was mistaken. When I first met him, I was captivated by him. He fulfilled every expectation I had for a partner. He had success, charisma, and good looks. When we first started dating, everything seemed ideal. But eventually, I began to detect his true colors. He was entirely oblivious to my needs, manipulative, and self-centered. I didn't understand I was in a toxic relationship for a very long time. Finally, I put an end to things, and it was the wisest move I ever took. Now that I'm happier and healthier than ever, I'm driven to educate other women about the warning signs of a toxic relationship so they won't make the same errors I did. The early days When I first met John, I thought he was the perfect man. He was charming, handsome, and successful. We hit it off immediately and started dating. I was head-over-heels in love with him. However, it didn't take long for me to realize that John was...

  Hey dear, you are welcome to this blog. I know why you are here, and I am happy and glad to have you. You have probably been thinking and asking yourself so many questions. Well, whilst I may not be able to answer all of your questions, I am here to guide you and help the situation.  So you are in a relationship with someone you love and wish to spend the rest of your life with, but you are unsure because you feel there are a lot of things underlying that need to be resolved.  You do not want to end your relationship because you love them and you know they love you too. You do have a good reason to slow things down, and that you are here reading this blog is because you are searching for a solution. That's okay. In this article, I will be telling you 5 things you can do to help a partner with an unresolved past. The First thing I will mention is  Do n't try to fix them I get it. You're sick and tired of seeing them in pain, both emotionally and physically, and you ...

The worst thing to have to deal with is pains. And the truth is we all feel it As long as we are humans in human form (phsyical flesh) We are responsive to pain.  Pains adjust us mentally, they help us build our inner strength and most of the time it puts us back in the right direction. But this is if you can use pain to your advantage.  For me, pains and anger (holy anger) motivates me a lot I like to call it "holy anger" because it causes me to react to my goals, ideas, dreams and to act upon them. It is not the type of anger to fight, no not that one. It is an anger to drive me to a better and logical decision It only reminds me that it's because of my present environment and incapacity I experienced such abuse that caused such pain or anger This is relative, it works for me. I get angry within my spirit, cry to myself and tell myself I need to do better. You can learn this too, you don't have to be down because of what someone said to you. I know words...

   Hello boos, this is our first actual blog of the year, I am so ashamed of myself, I de cover my face  Well sha, I hope it is not too late to wish you all beautiful people a happy new year. So boos, as you all know I lost my dada, my most precious gift from God on the 3rd of this year, ahhh it is not even funny, and the truth is I cannot even really explain how hurt I am, it is like I am saying to myself that I am fine but I am internally broken.  Ahhh, see me already diverting I just said I should hint some of you who may not know what happened to me at the beginning of this year.  So things have changed on here o, I am changing the style of our blog o, are you excited? See ehn the idea just came to my mind, like I was washing and it just came.  My last blog was in august of 2021 and I have been unproductively busy, lol I have been productively busy with my 9-5 job and pretty much other things. Wulikascorner is now really my corner o, as I will be tellin...

Do you know how you know when you've found the one?                        Did you come here to find answers? I did as well. Forget that the blog is in my name, it is our blog. We share our thoughts on interesting topics, which are at the same time really relevant to us. I am just here wondering, what does "the one" really mean? because I am no longer certain. I mean, I go on Instagram to unwind and I go to explore and see really cute couple pictures. I click on the pictures because, you know, it is my area of interest and the captions usually go like "I married my best friend." "I find peace here." "This is home"... These are actually the men talking. Ladies, the men talking! Or is it just an exaggeration? ...and I just pause back and ask what these men really mean when they say "she is my peace" and blah Well, do you know? Let me share with you my own thoughts, and you can share yours with me in the comment section. F...

You wanna know why you feel insecure and what you should do.                Read on!  Firstly, you should know everyone of us have a level of insecurity in us.    Like I said, "a level", because there are some who have insecurity issues that affect their relationship badly.    In cases like this, I advise you do not start or enter a relationship unless you are willing and ready not to hurt your partner. Most people do not understand the hurt and cut of insecurity effect in a relationship. It is toxic!    Now, it is not your fault that you feel insecure     No one was born insecure, as children we were born fearless but as we grew we had encounters.     Encounters with situations that threatened our strength of faith and confidence.    Alot of people, both Male and female likewise have had bad experiences in their past relationships.    They went through emotional tortu...

I am sure most of you will be able to relate to what you are about to read. I would like us to be honest with ourselves. Most of us do these things and hurt our partner and our relationship. I am sometimes left to wonder if these people instigating this pressure are not concerned about the state of their relationship/marriage. Because why would you be bringing in unnecessary drama into your relationship, especially when you are very aware that this could be sickening to your relationship? Please let us pay close attention to this topic as we progress. What do I mean by putting unnecessary pressure on your relationship?   Now, I am going to make you understand what I mean when I talk about putting pressure on your relationship.   There are some things that ought to be overlooked in a relationship, but as usual, you demand answers, you over think and over act on things (whether little or not) your partner does. …which could absolutely be wrong! When you are finally able to g...

        Our different cultures and tribes have made it difficult for most people to marry people of their choice!     It is honestly painful and sad that our different tribes play a major role in our love affair. Many relationships are breaking everyday because of tribe differences. And because of this many people have married partners whom their hearts do not desire just because they want to please their parents. Sometime ago I was speaking with a friend and I asked him his thoughts about inter-tribal marriage.  And he opened up to me to say he had similar challenge when he brought his wife home. His mother and sisters were against his wife to be and it was really a challenge. What he did? He called his mother and spoke to her from his heart, making her understand that he has found love with the lady he brought home. He pacified his mother and made her see the good in his wife to be and she did. Firstly we need to erase this t...

 Does Age really play an important  role in relationships/marriage?            Yes it does, oh yes it does. Some people have left their relationships/marriages because of this age thing.                              Some people actually debate about their age to their significant other, talking about how much older they are and trying to draw a line so that their S.O do not cross their boundaries. Some people give a damn while others do not really care. I personally love a man who is older than me so I can give him more respect. Although this does not mean that I can't respect a man who is not older. But I love an older man, it gives him the chance to usurp more authority on me, I love men that can be MEN. I honestly cannot date or marry a man that is younger than me, I know you will say if there is love it would not matter. Yes...

                  Wisdom and Knowledge are two different things! Wisdom is Divine, Knowledge is acquired. It was wisdom we saw when King Solomon used a trick to know which woman had the baby (1Kings3:16-28). Wisdom is gotten from God while Knowledge is gotten from experience, study... To know when to act and how to act what to say and how to say it is wisdom. And wisdom is so obvious that when a man filled with it speaks you easily know. Wisdom gives clarification, wisdom gives enlightenment. Wisdom gives assimilation. God is Wisdom, Wisdom is God. And the truth is no one can obtain wisdom if he isn't in Christ You can easily get knowledge but you can't find wisdom unless you submit to the Almighty. Do not think wisdom is not important or because it is divine you feel stressed out already. The gains of wisdom is far more above rubies. Imagine in your office you are recognised, the ma...

                      It is definitely not easy to walk through a breakup successfully but it is very possible. Have you being asking yourself questions on how you got yourself so used and fooled by someone you loved so much? ...why the amount of love you gave wasn't enough to satisfy them? Why did they dump You? Well, it is time for you to stop beating yourself too hard, because no matter how much you do that it cannot change what has been done! The more you dwell on the hurt in your past, the more you are liable to more pains.  Your heart will only just get more pained and broken. I went through my first heart break in 2016, boy I don't want to experience that ever again, trust me. I got depressed for 2 years and didn't know how to help myself out. This person was so dear to my heart that even in his lies I stuck with him. I gave him my all, my heart, my time, my attention, everyt...

                                One thing I have noticed in men is that there is a cry in their heart that most women do not hear. They do not talk about it but they explain it in their attitude towards you, but unfortunately still some women do not see it.  Women easily and readily express their discomfort by talking but men don't, instead they flee.  When they see that the one place where they ought to find peace is the same place there is war, they would definitely run far away from there. The intention of every woman should be to be a man's peace, a man's safe haven.  Let him feel safe with you, let him know that he is safe with you. And what we women do not know is that this attitude will bring your man closer to you, oh yes. He will always want to come to the place of Peace because the real world be scary for him with a lot of challenges, temptations and even ...

   Trust me there are challenges when it comes to love, relationship and marriage. I listened to a man on YouTube when he was saying that you can live without having issues with those around you, so I am going to ask is this really true? Like realistically speaking, can anyone truly not have issues with the people they live with? The people they see everyday, you practically sleep and wake with these people.   There is this thing I have noticed although I stand to be corrected that distance somehow helps relationships to be stronger (this is not just limited to love relationship family relationship also). When people are distant from themselves there is less time to have quarrels. I mean this person is not in your hair and you can breathe, right? And this is another reason why I personally do not advocate long distance relationship because you won't see any red flag, you won't see the personality that you have to see. That isn't good, please do not be deceived i...

Many at times we hear people complaining of their inability to grow spiritually, they begin to blame God of His decision not to help them. They feel God doesn't want to assist them and give them gifts, to grow. I think i should come in here to let you know that nothing depends on God but everything depends on you. You wanna grow spiritually it is in your power and not in Gods'. The Bible repeatedly shows us places where God kept admonishing us to draw near, come closer to be the first to show the hand of friendship. No man grows just by desire, there are processes and desire is the first stage of spiritual growth but it is not all. If you are willing to grow that's desire when you work towards it by doing other things (which i am going to talk about) you grow. Many people say but they don't act. It's quite easier to talk and desire but harder to act on it. Let's boil down to some of the few things we need to know about spiritual growth. 1. DESIRE ...

     We all hope to get something that we have either been promised of or convinced about getting. Only for us to be disappointed. The question is what do you do when what you expect doesn't come through for you? You should know that in life we dont always win as well as lose; there are times we hit the jackpot there are other times we lose badly; we could say life is unfair but I think life is actually fair, because have you forgotten that nothing is perfect?  There is always the rain and the Sun, evil and good so things can't always be the same, it can only be fair and not perfect. Now lots of people do not know how to react to loss, because they have put so much hope in that particular thing they get hit by the result that doesn't Favor them and end up committing suicide, or getting really depressed and hurting themselves emotionally; like a loss of relationship one kept in very high esteem in their hearts, hoping it would lead to something serious but were ...

    Yup,  you heard this here; if it fails then it was NEVER love. I personally do not think that any situation should be capable of tearing two people apart, do you know what Love Is? So many people do not know what it really is.  Love is beyond saying the words it is deeper than that, Love is a bond, Love is a tie, Love cannot be broken.  I know there are so many relationships around us that have broken and even the ones we got involved in, if it is easy for two people to part ways without any emotional pain that is an obvious sign that There was NEVER love.  I hear things like "falling out of love", is there really a thing like that? Is anyone every supposed to fall out of love? Well the answer is NO.   I have a lot of questions on my mind to ask because this topic is quite an interesting one but I think I will pass. But really why will anyone that said he was in love fall out of love? You cannot love someone and stop loving them and thi...

        This is a question I am still searching an answer to.   This post is not exactly to tell you whether love dies or not but to take us on a journey of different love experiences. So pick a bottle of juice, grab a seat and read!     Someone once said love never dies no that is no someone that was my ex. We were discussing and he said love never dies and I got wondering, how do you mean? We broke up! Now the fact that his love did not die does not mean some people do not grow out of love. Most people do hence they get tired and give up on it.      But let us think about this for a moment, what kind of love are we even talking about here? is it the "world's" kind of love or God's kind of love?      I do not know about the world's kind of love but I am certain about God's kind of love; it NEVER DIES. God said the peace that He gives is not as the world gives; so we can say that the love that God gives is defin...